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Reality Bites

Looking over the homepage reveals that I’ve posted a grant total of eight posts over the past three months - two of which were Firefox updates so they totally don’t count. All in all I think it’s safe to say I dropped the semi-regular blogging baton a while ago and never picked it back up.

I suppose this web site is easing its way through what might be the plot arc for a cheesy Hollywood romance movie starring a mid-90’s era Ethan Hawke: at first, the novelty and the newness of the relationship is intoxicating: Ohmygod you are such a good listener and you really care about what I’m saying!

After a while a narcissism-induced hangover sets in. Faster than you can say maybe we should just be friends the affair is over, and all you’re left with is a shoebox full of letters, photos, and the distinct feeling that you no longer have anything meaningful to talk about.

I originally started posting online because I enjoyed writing and wanted to improve, and like the truly self-absorbed I didn’t think it was worth doing unless I had an audience. At the same time I thought this site could be my “designer’s playground”: a place for me to experiment and grow as a designer.

The problem of course is the urge to write has faded a lot over the past year or so. I no longer plan and scheme post ideas days (or even weeks) ahead of time, and my flickering desire to inform the world of what I’ve been up to / doing / seeing / thinking hasn’t exactly overwhelmed me into action. At the same time I stopped redesigning the site because a) I was too busy working, and b) my self-induced pressure to knock the redesign out of the ballpark pretty much paralyzed me instead into doing nothing.

You know you’ve jumped the blogging shark when you’ve stooped to posting about the fact that you’ve lost the wherewithal to post in the first place. The obvious next question is, what’s next?

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1 | Heck said on August 19, 2006 3:15 PM

You'll consider the idea of a photoblog of sorts next...

Just a guess, based on my experience and that of other people who've been through this phase you've just been through. Hope you don't disappear completely though.

Cheers.

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2 | systemsboy said on August 20, 2006 5:01 PM

Bummer. I like your site and check it regularly. But I can see myself hitting this stage at some point. Totally understandable. Do keep us posted on what's next.

-systemsboy

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3 | kannon said on August 24, 2006 3:47 PM

Whether you intended an audience or not, you do have it...

But it's not all bloodthirstily craving your soul. :)

That's your perfectionism, not the audience.

Non-artistic people often don't feel in their bones the creative drain. Tense concentration and feeling as you try to divine the "right" thing to add or remove... Feeling all the while that it's some personal reflection of who you are, and how much... or how little. It's nerve-wracking. It takes its toll in a way number crunching just doesn't. It's not a physical exhaustion. It's spiritual.

You might as well carve out a piece of your own dear flesh and plop it on the page. At some point, it can feel like life is less beneath the ribs and cranium, and more out there, in things you make. It's disembodying and exhausting. And yes, the pressure is paralyzing.

At least, I get that sensation. Mileage may vary. :)

But you burning out is not what we want.

Just because we may not grok it in our pith doesn't mean we don't get the point. :)

Take a break. Don't make anything for a while. Go do something you like for its own sake, and not on the web. Walk puppies. Pet kitties. Chat with friends over a nice iced tea. Don't do it for any reason but your own consumption. Go view others' works. Don't do it with the assumption that you will pick this back up, because you may not.

Just keep the energy and restore yourself.

If in the end you do come back, we'll feel loved. :)

BTW, What's wrong with photoblogs??? I view your photos for motivation when I'm looking for reinforcement in the move to Québec from Florida. Very cool. :)

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4 | Jeanne R. said on August 29, 2006 10:23 PM

Quite a few people are experiencing blogger burn-out, myself included. We reach a point where we wonder what the heck we're doing it all for because, truth be told, we're beginning to get snowed under by the ceaseless demands of life and blogging becomes just one more hassle to get done everyday. But really, there is no law that dictates that we HAVE to blog every day. I blog whenever I'm in the mood and I think that is a better way because it takes the pressure off and makes blogging a pleasurable pursuit. So keep on blogging! I visit your site every now and then and I sure get a kick out of your writing and your insights and I don't get turned off if there is nothing new. It's just another good reason to come back later....

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5 | Olly said on September 11, 2006 7:24 AM

Well Neil, for what it's worth I really enjoy reading your blog, seeing the pictures you've taken and doing it all on your Intel 'Deerpark' builds. I'm a travel writer and trust me, I know what it's like to be subsumed by the minutia of daily life to the point where it no longer seems interesting enough to share with strangers. But trust me, what's everyday for you is extraordinary for others.

I've no idea what working for Yahoo must be like and the only way I'll ever get a glimpse is through people like you sharing their experiences. Being able to do this is probably my favourite thing about the Internet (after music, films and po...pictures!)

Having said all of that, I respect your decision - you seem like a nice guy and I hope all turns out very well for you. Thank you for all the builds et al, much appreciated and good luck!

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6 | Rik said on October 12, 2006 11:22 AM

hey dude, just do what i do and put youtube videos on your blog. saves all the bother trying to think of something to write. i too have run out of blogging steam after 7 years of blogging. mind you, i spend most days immersed in the 'social software' world, so last thing i want to do in my spare time is blog. instead, i sleep.

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